• Sadie B.

Four Most Common Fears and How to Overcome Them.


Listen up Goal-getters,

Let’s talk about fear. Fear is one of the most common obstacles we may face on our goal-getting journey. Everyone has experienced fear at some point in their life. When accompanied by trying something new and feelings of uncertainty, fear can become overwhelming and paralyzing. Whether we realize it or not, fear can break our progress in achieving our goals. Not only that, but it can also wreak havoc on our self-confidence and mindset. We must learn to master our fear, so that instead of hindering us, it will propel us forward. Here are a few common fears that you may be experiencing, and steps you can take to overcome them.


#1. Fear of failure

It is natural to worry about failing at something important to you, whether it’s getting a promotion, starting a business, or learning a new skill. The problem arises when this fear stops you from progressing in your goal. Perhaps you find yourself thinking, “What if I make a mistake?” or “I can’t do this. What’s the point in trying?” The fear of failing stops you from taking that chance on yourself and reaching for success.

To overcome this fear, let’s redefine what we consider a failure. Mistakes are not failures; they are learning experiences. Having your first, second, or even third, attempt not work out doesn’t mean you have failed. It means you have learned ways in which to grow and evolve. Let’s also separate the thought that failure is a reflection of you as a person. Trying something that has “failed” doesn’t make you anything less than a perseverant, confidant, adaptive person.


#2. Fear of change

Some of us may be stuck because we’re scared of change. It is easy to be comfortable in your surroundings and routine. However, if you have a goal you want to accomplish, it will require you to step out of your comfort zone and try new things. Often, we fear change because we don’t know the outcome. We are hesitant to leave the safety of our current surroundings for the unknown. If we continue to do this, we will never grow. We will remain stuck in our comfortable, but stagnant routine.

In your goal-getting journey, there may be a lot of uncertainties. After all, you are striving to reach a goal you’ve never reached before. We must embrace change and see it as a sign of moving forward. Instead of worrying about all of the unknowns, try to focus on the reasons you started your goal-getting journey in the first place. Motivate yourself by thinking of how your life will improve once you’ve achieved your goal. Remember that in order to grow, you must step out of your comfort zone.


#3. Fear of success

Yes, fear of success is a real thing. It’s common, too. Fear of success is fear that you won’t be able to live up to the success that will come with achieving your goal. If your goal were to get a promotion, fear of success may stop you from speaking with your boss, or cause you to turn down the promotion, because you are afraid that you can’t withstand the duties of the new job.

Fear of success is often linked to fear of change because you are fearful of the changes that come with achieving your goal. Like fear of change, remember the reasons you started your journey and motivate yourself by thinking of the ways your life, or your family’s lives, will improve once you’ve reached your goal. Also, you may want to try daily affirmations, like “I can handle what life brings me,” and “I am strong and capable.” Affirmations will help boost your self-confidence and help prepare you for life’s uncertainties.


#4. Fear of rejection

When we pursue a new goal, we often fear rejection or criticism from others, whether it be family, friends, co-workers, or potential business investors. Fear of rejection can hinder our progress, and if we’re not careful, it can overwhelm us.

To overcome fear of rejection, we must be strong in our self-confidence and self-worth. Remember that you are worthy of reaching your goals, and no one’s opinion can change that. Practicing openness can also help with fear of rejection. Don’t shut down because you fear being rejected. Instead, be open to the people close to you. More often than not, they will accept you and your new goal. Remember that rejection happens to everyone and try to use it as an opportunity for growth.


Takeaways

Fear is a natural and common emotion. When we are progressing toward a new goal, we may experience more fear than usual. It is up to us to not let that fear keep us from achieving our goals. Fear doesn’t completely disappear, but we can learn to control and overcome our fears so that we can reach our goals and live life the way we imagine.